Motherhood is one of the most demanding jobs on this planet. The moment you become a mother you become a nurse, chef, chauffeur, counselor, and the list goes on and on.
Although motherhood is beautiful it comes with various challenges.
You may ask yourself, how do I juggle my career and children? Or, why don’t I look like that one mom on Instagram after giving birth?
The pressures of motherhood can be overwhelming and the feeling of “keeping up” with friends and people on social media can be exhausting.
Momma, I want to let you know that you are not alone, you can do this. You were given those babies because you were the right person for the job.
Stop putting pressure on yourself!
But of course, that is easier said than done. How can we stop doing this practically? Let’s dig into the best ways to reduce this pressure.
About the Author: Dana
Dana is a mother, eye doctor, and content developer. She is the co-founder of Luke Knows. Dana loves teaching other parents things she wished she would have known before having children, sharing what she has learned about motherhood, and giving insight into what having a career and children is like. You can follow her on Instagram at @theofficiallukeknows.
5 Tips to Stop Putting Pressure on Yourself as a Mother
While having small amounts of stress and anxiety for short periods of time can be helpful, having too much can negatively affect your physical and mental health. “Mom anxiety” is no joke!
Unfortunately, the pressure we put on ourselves can make anxiety as a mother worse. Thankfully there are a number of things that can be done or used to reduce this anxiety and pressure.
There are many devices you can use to help reduce anxiety and a handful of practical ways to reduce motherhood’s anxieties and pressure by changing your mindset and perspective.
1. Be Realistic
I will be the first to tell you that what culture expects out of women and motherhood is not realistic.
We are “supposed” to be good mothers, good employees, exercise, home cook all of our meals, keep a clean house, be good wives, and oh, don’t forget about yourself- you have to meditate, read a book, and get lots of sleep.
There is too much pressure on moms as we are expected to do it all.
Do NOT do it all, do what you CAN.
With each season of life, what you can and can’t balance may change.
Be flexible, congratulate yourself for doing your best, and accept your reality during this stage of life.
2. Don’t Compare Yourself
In a world where social media is how we connect, buy products, gather information, and keep up with our friends and family, it can be tough to not compare our life to others.
Seeing how perfect someone else’s life looks and comparing yourself to the highlights of their life is impractical, yet we still do it!
Try your best to limit social media.
Remove people or accounts that may trigger you, remind yourself that social media isn’t “real life,” and jog your memory of all of your accomplishments and strengths. We are all unique and we all shine in different areas.
3. Live in the Moment
Your kids aren’t small for long so embrace the chaos and live in the moment. Try not to worry about the next week or the next day and enjoy your time as a mother now.
Parenting can be overwhelming, but if you can enjoy the small things like the little belly laugh your little one makes, reading books together before bed, and the sweet I Love You’s, this is helpful for being present and grateful for all that you have.
If things are tough try to find the good in all that you have by changing your mindset and managing your mental and physical health.
4. Know You Are The Perfect Mother for Your Children
Your children were the perfect little gift for you.
You were given them because you were the best person in this world to guide them through life.
If you are struggling with self-doubt about your ability to be the best mother for your children practice saying affirmations. Positive affirmations can change your mindset and eventually you will believe them.
5. Sorry, You’re Not Wonder Women
I hate to burst your bubble but you are not Wonder Woman.
Sure, we would like to have it all and do it all but that will not happen.
If you try you will BURN OUT. You might be able to do it for a short period of time but you will become overwhelmed with the pressure to do it all.
So momma, ask for help when you need it, take a break, and make sure you implement self-care in your routine.
Learning to say no and identifying your goals are helpful in knowing what needs to be let go of so that you can create time in your schedule for what is important.
How to Stop Putting Pressure on Yourself as a Mother Wrap-up
Motherhood can increase stress and anxiety, and be quite frankly overwhelming. The pressure that mothers face every day is outstanding.
Know that you are not alone and your feelings are valid.
Find support or seek professional care if the pressures become too much for you to handle.
Remember you are not Wonder Woman, but you are the PERFECT mother for your children.
Be realistic about what you can do, don’t compare yourself to someone else’s highlights, and know that these moments are fleeting.
Momma, keep your chin up because you got this!
6 thoughts on “Momma, Stop Putting Pressure on Yourself (With 5 Tips)”
Such a lovely post with lots of great advice!
I needed to read this today. Sometimes I should really say “no” and I end up going along and being stretched thin. Thanks for reminding me to remember myself.
Great article! I’m going to share it with the mom I nanny for.
This should be required reading for all mothers! The pressure to do everything and be perfect at all of it is so real. But you’re right – that is not realistic! Thank you for sharing such a relevant article complete with great tips to shed the mom pressure that so many of us experience!
We do put a lot of pressure on ourselves, don’t we? Our household is busy with kids in competitive sports. Often, my house hasn’t been cleaned, the clean laundry lays in the basket, unfolded for days. We try to focus on what’s really important and live in the moment and try to forget the rest. It’s not easy to let go of what you expect “clean” to be but one day, we will miss the times we went to the hockey rink, or the soccer tournament with the kids, not the time my house got messy!
This was such a lovely read and so supportive of us mamas that are trying to juggle it all. It’s so important to ease up on ourselves and enjoy the moment. Thanks for the reminder.